We often imagine that at some point we'll feel ready. Ready to have the conversation, apply for the job, make the change, put ourselves forward, set the boundary or start something new. We tell ourselves we're waiting for the right time, or until we feel a little more confident, have more clarity or know exactly what we're doing. And sometimes that is exactly what we need. There are times when waiting is wise, when we need more information, more support or simply more time. B

When we hear the word practice, we tend to think about something we are deliberately trying to get better at. Learning a language, training for something, preparing for a presentation or developing a new skill. But we are practising ways of being all the time, often without realising it. If you regularly say yes when you really want to say no, you are getting very practised at overriding yourself. If your response to a busy period at work is to speed up, work later and take m

There are moments in life when we look at ourselves and think:"Why am I making such a big deal out of this?" Maybe it is the email that sits unanswered for three days even though it would take five minutes to reply or the conversation you rehearse over and over in your head before finally having it. Or maybe it is the tears that arrive out of nowhere over something that "shouldn't" upset you this much or the snapping at someone you love when really you were exhausted long bef

If you have ever had a moment of "yes, that's exactly it," only to find yourself doing the same thing three weeks later, you are not alone. It doesn't mean you are not trying hard enough. You are human. And there's actually a very good reason this keeps happening. The insight trap We live in a world that really loves insight. Read the right book, take the right course, have the right conversation and surely things will shift. And insight is valuable, I'm not dismissing it. Un